There are a lot of different myths I heard growing up. But the ones that really stick out are the ones about relationships. Whether you have the perfect mate or you like the person just enough for you to stand, it’s always good to keep in mind that you are both in it together so the best way for you to express your feelings is to “Communicate Effectively” to your other half.
This varies for everyone. Some communicate well after being a part for a few hours, while others want to solve it right on the spot. Some do it by screaming (which I would never recommend), while others work it out by doing some activities together such as sports, games, or even a walk at the park or beach.
Below are some relationship myths that we should reconsider:
1- “The couple that plays together stays together” – Now don’t get me wrong, I absolutely believe in sharing some of the activities with your other half, however we all need time to ourselves. 1 lesson I learned from a good friend of mine is that “a little bit of separation, brings a whole lot of appreciation”.
2- “Never go to bed angry” – I for one vouch for this. For one it’s easier to rest when you know that there is a form of resolution. Yet keep in mind that sometimes agreeing to fix there on the spot can also mean that you will be up for a lot longer than you may think. One suggestion made by happiness expert Gretchen Rubin, author of Happier at Home. Is that “People tend to fight at night when they’re really tired. Instead of continuing to fight, suggest that you have a good night’s sleep and then talk about it.” The disagreement may seem a whole lot sillier once you’ve both had a chance to cool off”.
3- “Marriage means happily ever after, no fighting allowed” – Even if the storyline before marriage comes from a fairy tale book, eventually it’s going to happen. When it does happen 1 of 2 things will be the result: A – you don’t resolve the problem, it escalates and now this is a bridge to future arguments that can be catastrophic to your relationship. B – you somehow find a median that works for both of you, apologize for “your mistake” (assuming that they will do the same), and work on it to build a stronger, more meaningful relationship. Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (aka “Dr. Romance”), psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage suggests to “avoid screaming matches and name calling. Instead, take a moment to calm down so that you can approach the issue in a rational way”.
4- “A Baby will make your marriage/relationship stronger” – A study in 2009 by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that having kids often leads to a sharp drop in marital bliss. So in short, don’t do it at all for this reason!
Relationships are meant to be a key to fulfill the emotional side for you and your significant other. It’s a 2 ways street, getting feedback is just as important as giving it. And finally have fun, you only live once! Be sure to read more blogs by Lisa Milbrand and check out the source for this blog at thenest.com.