Is this serious? Acknowledging your relationship beyond dating


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If you’re asking yourself this question, it’s a good sign that you’re curious to know your next step. In today’s modern dating, access to helping you solve this question often gets diluted from websites giving you a range of 20 to 100 things to consider if your serious about taking your relationship to the next level. Instead, we’ll just cut right to the chase and tell you what to consider from a man and woman’s point of view.

It’s really a question about your comfort level with your ‘Relationship Status.” A rule of thumb to consider is your loyalty to your partner in these terms “You’re their only person in this relationship, and they’re yours.” If you’re both find with that, Congratulations! You’re both now in an exclusive relationship! From a man’s point of view, this means asking yourself the simple question, can you see yourself committed to “JUST” your partner. Simple right? I’m not intending to make it sound negative, but over complicating it will not help you or your partner. And just in case you’re still not sure, this means no fooling around with any other person. If it deems worthy of cheating in your mind, most likely, it probably is.

From a woman’s point of view, it’s really a matter of accepting the opinions of those around you viewing you both as an “ITEM”, and no longer available on the market. For example, let’s say your partner says they want to take it slow and see what happens. From a woman’s perspective, this means that she’s yours “UNTIL” she finds someone that’s looking for something more to offer. If you’re ready to commit, do so, or else you may lose her to another prospect without even realizing it.

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Easy Winter Hair Care

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As much as the cold dry weather during winter can cause dryness and roughness to our skin, so can it do damage to our hair as well, both male and female. Here are some quick and easy regimens for winter hair care.
During the winter we tend to take hot showers or baths, but as drying as this is to our skin it also has the same effect on our hair. Avoid washing your hair every day. If you must wash your hair everyday, skip out on the shampoo and just use conditioner.
For the days that you do not wash your hair, to re freshen your hair or prep it for styling use a leave in conditioner. To avoid weighing down the hair by leave in products you can do a couple of things to fix that. One, water the leave in conditioner down, a 50/50 ratio will do just fine. Or make your own leave in conditioner by combining a few drops of essential oils, chamomile tea, coconut oil or aloe Vera oil, and vitamin E.
it is recommended to do a deep conditioning or hot oil treatment once or every other week. VO5 will do just fine for an over the counter hot oil treatment. Or you can use quite a number of things to reset and rejuvenate your hair. There’s amla powder or oil, coconut oil, aloe vera extract.

Also, shielding your hair from the blistering cold air by wearing a hat or what not can help protect your hair too.


Perfume That Hydrates The Skin

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Growing older and experimenting with different body and skin products, I have stopped buying department store perfumes.
Often commercial colognes and perfumes found in retail and department stores are overpriced and just come in a pretty bottle. They are endorsed by popular celebrities but its scent is made mostly of water and alcohol. And the worst part is putting it on and after a few minutes realizing the scent does more harm than good by making you smell bad.
Perfume or cologne shouldn’t reek the old cliche ‘baby prostitute.’ Like the proper application of make up it should not be over done but it should be there to accent and enhance.
It’s common knowledge to always try on perfume before buying to make sure it mixes well with your own scent.
It was a couple of years ago that I discovered hand made linen spray and hand made face misters, rosewater and lavender calming skin sprays. This is where the inspiration came about for a scented skin mister.
It’s definitely better to make your own perfume out of raw, organic, hand picked, natural botanical materials. This way you can personalize it yourself to match your own essence, and you know there isn’t anything in it that can irritate your skin or mess up your clothes.

You will need a small spray bottle, there are 1,2 and 4 ounce bottles available at Wal-Mart or Target. You will also need distilled water and the essential oil of your scent of choice. For this one we are going to make my favorite combination of scents, lavender, freesia and bergamot. We are making 2 ounces of spray.
Pour 1.5 ounces of distilled water in the bottle, add 5 drops of lavender, 3 drops of bergamot and 2 drops of freesia, shake the bottle and enjoy. I use this as car freshener, linen spray, pillow spray and on my skin.
Create a face mist spray by adding 5 drops of aloe, 2 drops of lavender and 2 drops of tangerine into 1.5 ounces of distilled water, rose water or a mix of the two, refrigerate or use room temperature, use it after the gym or anytime you want to freshen or hydrate your face or skin.

Overnight Relaxing Face Mask

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I see people sleep with cucumbers or teabags on their eyes, and overnight face masks. I have never tried any overnight treatment, until I came up with this one. First of all this is very light and we are going to use the rule, that a little goes a long long way. It’s probably not good to leave anything on your skin on that long anyway, plus you don’t want anything too sticky because let’s face it, it’s uncomfortable. We are going to go for a convenient one this time around, minimal, not messy but meaningful to the skin and mild enough to be a nightly ritual.
First you will need an eye mask. We will skip out on tea bags and cucumbers. Ulta has a couple of types of eye masks for only $6. One is just a plain cooling eye mask with the liquid inside that you can chill before using it, and the other type is a lavender eye mask with removable lavender packets that you can warm or chill before using it. Either one is good, but I like the diversity of the lavender packets, plus if you are going to use this with your nightly regimen, might as well take advantage of the calming effects of lavender to help you wind down.
I don’t recommend heavy, thick creams or oils overnight because it could just do more harm by clogging your pores. I wouldn’t recommend using ingredients that have an astringent effect like honey, lemon, or citrus this can cause drying of the skin that can lead to blemishes as well. Essential oils shouldn’t be directly applied to the skin better yet left over night, so what do we have left? Water, nutrient infused water for our skin. We will make a simple light mister, and you can leave this on your bedside and apply as desired.

You will need one 8 ounce spray bottle, 4 ounces distilled water (or mineral water), 1 vitamin E capsule (for its contents), 4-6 organic rose petals, ½ teaspoon green tea (or chamomile or red tea), 1 tbsp Japanese sake (or red wine). In the spray bottle add the water, vitamin E, sake, rose petals, tea, and shake well before each spray. Simple as that! So when you go to bed tonight put on your eye mask and sprits your face with this natural face overnight rejuvenator. Use it as often as you desire or can remember, even a couple of times throughout the night. Remember to be cautious of food allergies or medical conditions. Discard any leftovers after 2 weeks.

DIY Face Moisturizer

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Easy Face Moisturizer – Do It Yourself for combination skin and the rest!
This is a concoction I came up with for myself, since I have very sensitive skin and I also easily break out. I made this up also to find a median in DIY facial moisturizers; my goal was to come up with one that most people can use no matter what type of skin they have, provided they don’t have certain allergies or other medical conditions that would prevent them from using the following ingredients.
I do not understand why some creams that promise to repair overnight or make the skin younger looking, or is claimed to be able to work under make-up are so thick and heavy. I’d rather reapply a wonderful product throughout the day rather that have goop on my face that will sit on my skin and be a magnet for dust and dirt.
You will need rose water. You can make your own by gathering 1 cup of rose petals, 1 cup of distilled water; and boiling the rose petals for about an hour in the distilled water. Set this aside to cool. Be careful of the roses you use as some may contain pesticides or other harmful chemicals. Ask the florist or buy organic from you local farmers market. You can also buy ready made rosewater over the internet. Just make sure you always get the purest for your skin. You do not need a lot as homemade beauty products will not have a long shelf life. Every time you create homemade skin care products, you will always create a batch for you to last before it expires. It’s better this way because you know you are always getting fresh product.
You will need ¼ cup lemon, 2 capsules of vitamin E, 1 tsp extra virgin olive oil (food grade) and ¼ cup rice water. The rice water is made by washing ½ a cup of uncooked white rice, on the second rinse, pour 1 cup of water and take the water the rice was rinsed in, that will be your rice water.
Mix all your ingredients together in a blender. Store in an empty bottle, or in a couple of those travel size cosmetic bottles that can be bought at Wal-Mart or other supermarket stores. This product is enough to use about twice a day for a couple of weeks. Discard any leftovers after the second week, but you should have finished it by then.
Be careful of allergies or other medical conditions that might do you harm when using any of these mentioned products.

Winter make up and skincare 101

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When the season gets cold, dry skin becomes a problem, due to the weather and due to us turning on that hot shower and making it harder on our skin. During winter the best thing to remember to do that will do your skin a favor is moisturize moisturize moisturize. These times I keep body lotion everywhere, in the car, in my purse, in my desk, in the bathroom, in the kitchen beside the hand soap and by my bedside. All you need is to buy the minis or travel size to last through the season. Or you could always make your own from scratch.

For cracked heels, apply Vaseline to your feel and wear socks overnight, do this as a ritual if you are prone to cracked heels like me during the winter. It’s the safest, least damaging and expensive effective prevention and cure.

During the cold season, is the time I put less make up on. Hoping this could work for you, I do this because piling on product just makes the skin drier. Not having any make up on just moisturizer, the cold make my cheeks flush naturally and I get a natural healthy glow. So, it would be ideal and practical to use a tinted moisturizer with spf rather than regular make up. Carry Chap Stick for touch ups in between lipstick. During the day use silver eye shadow on the corner of your eyes, black eyeliner, lipstick in a berry hue that will match your skin tone. For makeup transformation to night, reapply moisturizer, add dark blue or purple eye shadow, retouch your eyeliner and retouch your lipstick. If your eyes are smoky lay the lipstick color on light, if you decide to use light eye shadow or stick to silver, then for your lips add drama by lining the outer parts with lip liner that is darker than the color of your lipstick.

Ladies Basic Winter Wardrobe 101

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When picking out clothes I keep everything basic so if I have a statement piece, I know my wardrobe can support it no matter what the color or style is. But before taking fashion risks, since winter is here, and the economy is slow, there are a few items that you must have for a stylish winter this season, and you might already have some of these pieces.
One pair of black leather knee high boots. A pair of dark denim skinny jeans. A solid colored cashmere sweater. A leather motorcycle jacket in black or dark brown.

Remember when it’s cold layer it! You can build a weeks’ worth of wardrobe around knee high boots and skinny jeans by wearing it with a mini skirt on top, or a short dress, and a cardigan on top. For a casual night out build your wardrobe around your leather motorcycle jacket by wearing black leggings, some ankle high converse shoes or black

Mary janes topped with a dress or knee length skirt, you can even accessorize and put on a skull cap and matching scarf. You can build a wardrobe around your cashmere sweater by wearing some dress pants and oxford shoes, a scarf. If your cardigan is long wear a short jacket on top, for a bold and sexy look. Or go contemporary with dress pants, loafers, cowl neck sweater.

Depending on how cold it gets where you live, you may need to pile up on thermal undergarments. If you live in tropical climate where winter is just like spring and a break from the scorching sun, then play with autumn and winter colors like navy blue, red, burnt orange, maroon, olive green, plum purple, cream on black and grey. Or don’t change your wardrobe but just change you accessories by swapping out open toed sandals to closed toed black pumps, swap out the mesh or canvas tote for a dark leather, suede, wool or velvet purse. Ditch the white belt for a solid black or red belt. And add the practical accessories made for winter like scarves, hats and gloves; these are always fun to play around with.

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The Ugly Turnip – The Lost Potato – Jicama


How often to you go to the grocery store and see in a small section about a handful of Jicama beside the seasonal fruits or vegetables, or beside the other imported produce, pushed to the side. Some of the people that push this to the side think it’s a lost potato, mistaken it for a turnip, can’t identify it, don’t know what it is, or don’t know how to eat it or what to do with it.

Jicama is a root vegetable. It is indigenous to Mexico, Central and South America. In Mexico it, is common to find Jicama sold by street vendors, who add flavor by squeezing lime or lemon and adding salt and hot chili powder. In the Philippines, the street vendors sell Jicama as well, but add salt or shrimp paste to it and serve them poked in barbecue sticks.

Jicama is readily available for us here in the USA. Most grocery stores now carry them even in small quantities; ethnic grocery stores and international supermarkets carry them on a regular basis, thanks to the diversity of culture.

Jicama is rich in potassium and Vitamin C, iron and calcium, which is why filing up on this will help boost your immune system, not to mention it is also a natural diuretic. Eat it alone, in salad, or substitute it for water chestnuts in your stir fry; this sweet, juicy vegetable is also a good alternative for people with diabetes who have a sugar craving.

The Good Bacteria Acidophilus


What is acidophilus? Acidophilus or acidophilus lactobacillus is a microflora or probiotic that keeps the bad bacteria in our intestines in check. And for women, it keeps a healthy pH balance in the vagina. Imbalances of the bacteria can result in yeast infections, unhealthy colon, bad breath, urinary tract infections, flatulence, gas, indigestion, and diarrhea.

Probiotics are sometimes prescribed by doctors with antibiotics to make the antibiotic more effective, these are said to help in the production of niacin, folic acid, and B vitamins during the digestive process.

These days getting the required supplement of acidophilus is easy to achieve. It is available over the counter in the form of dietary supplements and pills; it is found in dairy products like yogurt and, my favorite Yakult drinks.

During pregnancy it is ideal to keep the level of acidophilus at a normal level as much as possible due to the higher risks of urinary tract infections. But like always consult your doctor first before trying anything, this is just information and not in no way a substitute for professional health care. Get regular check up and listen to your doctor first.

Natural Headache Remedies

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The most common form of headache is tension headache. This occurs when pain and pressure from the neck and up is experienced.
There are different kinds of headache: there are migraines, cluster, organic, rebound, hormone and tension headaches. It is difficult to pinpoint the main causes of tension headache; but based on studies, it is usually caused by either quick change in weather, stress, fatigue, eye strain, hunger, anxiety, depression, sinus, head or neck injury, bruxism (teeth grinding), arthritis, medication side effects. It is sometimes accompanied with nausea. This type of headache we usually treat with an OTC (over the counter) medicine like aspirin, acetaminophen, ibuprofen. Sometimes diphenhydramine (found in Benadryl) is added to help the patient fall asleep if sleep is hindered.
To stay away from any OTC drug or prescription medication here are some natural and effective remedies:
Wear a magnet necklace; this can be purchased at drug and retail stores or on the internet for about $30 depending on the length and design.
Try acupressure or acupuncture by going to a professional or simply applying pressure with your finger tips at the area where there is pain.
Certain essential oils when rubbed on the temples can also give comfort. Try peppermint, lavender, or rosemary, just a drop is enough.
Take a warm shower or bath and a good quality nap.
For nausea, consume ginger or any fresh citrus fruit.
But before self medicating and self diagnosing please make sure there is not anything more serious or any complications that could be the real cause of the headache, or you may be misdiagnosing yourself. It’s always good to consult a professional or a doctor first.

**This article is for informational purposes only and is no way in any way meant to replace the care and instruction of your doctor or a real health care professional.

Steam Facial at Home

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One of the wonderful perks about going to the spa is the steam sauna, a steam bath, or a steam facial. It feels tingling and refreshing after receiving that steam on your face with the massage and moisturizer, even better, during the process your breathing gets better as your sinus clears up. Here’s a way to get the same results from the comfort of home.

Wash your face with a mild cleanser and pat dry. In a bowl soak a small washcloth in hot water, (water hot enough that you can withstand but will not burn you!) lay back and place the drenched towel over your face for a couple of minutes or for as long as you can stay comfortable. Place the towel back in the basin, and apply your favorite mild moisturizer on your face. Do another round and place the damp towel over your face for as long as it feels comfortable. Gently pat dry your face with a clean towel or face tissue. In a cotton ball add some mild toner or light moisturizer.

Doing steam facials can aggravate the skin if it is acne prone or sensitive. If irritation occurs stop the treatment immediately. Like any other skin therapy or regimen it should be done consistently. As for a steam facial, once a week is suitable.