If you’re in to this sort of thing, then you probably know that a healthy relationship can make this part of your life more meaningful, joyful and fulfilled. I consider a healthy relationship with a person to be like owning a well maintained vehicle. Regardless of time, model or year, as long as you do the regular maintenance (like having a date night, tell them how much they are appreciated, do something nice etc) and your 30k, 60k, 90k (anniversaries, birthday, or a special event) then life is good.
I don’t know many healthy relationships where couples don’t have a misunderstanding once in a while. I personally believe it’s unfair to you and your mate to have to give a part of yourself up to please the other person or vise versa; the tips below are a good way to create and maintain a balance.
- Speak Up – If something is bothering you, it’s best to let it surface early than waiting till the pot is overflowing. This way you don’t catch the other person off guard.
- Respect your other half – Even if you think it’s not a big deal, it still shows your partner that you value their feelings
- Compromise – This is a big one. All healthy relationships understand that it’s a 2 way street. It’s a true testament to give a little to take a little.
- Be Supportive – Be the shoulder to cry on, be the shield when you need to be, and be the friend that lends the ear to their problems while offering solutions.
But it doesn’t end there. I was taught a simple saying that stuck with me up to this day. “Separation brings Appreciation.” The way I interpret this is to give yourself some well deserved “you time”, and let your partner do the same.
- Go out with friends by yourself so you never lose that part of you
- Continue or get into hobbies that you like
- Don’t share all your logins and passwords to all your bank accounts and social media sites
On a final note, enjoy each other’s time. Be spontaneous and do fun stuff like going on a road trip, visit memory lane on where you both first met, join some activity together and continue to create (more) fun memories. Each of us is responsible to adding your own ingredients and spices to create our own relationship’s “secret sauce.” You only live once so don’t take life so seriously that you spend it alone.
Now go to your other half, plan something and show them what they mean to you. Just be sure to take pictures for your scrap book!