Regardless of how much experience or lack thereof, break ups can be a tough experience in our life. It can leave us feeling heartbroken, lost and or depressed. There’re over 6 million results of experts that write about this topic when searched in Google alone. While there’s no cookie cutter way to eliminate the pain, and frustration of a separation, there are a few things you can do to help yourself recover. Having a healthy outlet and allowing yourself time, you’ll be back to your uniquely wonderful self again.
For those of us that have gone through a break up, ending a relationship has very real effects on the mind and body. Studies have shown that breakups cloud our senses. The more serious you were with your ex, the more devastated you’re likely to experience.
Treating yourself well during the post-breakup period regardless of whether you initiated the split or were on the receiving end is essential to heal. The phrase “time heals all wounds” is a saying you’ve probably heard about at some point in your life. Allowing yourself the chance to grieve, accept, and love yourself is a part of your path to your health and well-being.
Below are a few ways to help you live better after a breakup:
Document your thoughts and feelings
Subconsciously we train ourselves to suppress feelings that’s unpleasant as a method to protect ourselves from harm. However, when learning to cope from a break up, it’s actually the ball and chain that will suppress you from moving forward. According to an article by Forbes, people that that want to achieve a goal are more successful at accomplishing it when they write it down. This allows us to confront the emotions that we’ve bottled up and turn it into something tangible. In doing so, you remove it as a crazy thought from your mind, and transform something that’s visual that can be measured. The goal is to gain clarity and understanding to why the relationship did not work, and what you’ve learned from it that makes you a stronger and better person.
Don’t punish your body
In the movies you see one of the main characters completely trash their body as the cope with the stress of a breakup. They either stop eating, and go on a crash diet to lose weight to try to impress their ex to get them back. Or drink themselves drunk at a bar or at home as a way to mask their suffering. In addition, avoid mindless eating as a coping mechanism, as the effects of higher sugar, salt and unhealthy fats will cause more harm to your body’s ability to keep itself healthy. Your body is a part of you. So instead of restricting calories, over consumption of alcohol, or binge eating a ton of junk food, eat nourishing whole foods that are high in fiber, protein and nutrients to boost your overall mood and energy levels. A balanced diet with plenty of fresh fruits, greens, and lean meats such as fish and chicken can help counteract the physiological stress of the breakup.
Incorporate Exercise back in your life
Research has shown that exercise and staying active reduces fatigue, improve awareness, concentration, and mood by producing endorphins that act as natural pain killers. Getting your endorphins pumping through cardio exercise such as going for a run, indoor cycling, or dance class is often prescribed as a way to get over a breakup and reduce stress levels, while improving your cognitive functions. It’s also a great way to providing you with a healthy distraction away from your problems This works even better when accompanied by your friends.
Learn to appreciate the good things in your life
It may seem easier to think negatively about your break up experience vs. all the positive of everything else that’s a part your life. Studies show that painful breakups can cloud your thought process so that it’s almost impossible to look beyond the pain and loss directly in front of you. In addition, you may experience some difficulty in remembering all the things to appreciate as a result of your focus towards the bad stuff. Women and Men alike agree that by applying the practice of gratitude towards things you do have, as well as those that positively impact your life, can help elevate your mood and get you get back into a more positive mindset. Studies have also shown that listing things you’re thankful for through a journal as a reminder will help you in your journey for appreciation.
When all else fails, seek professional help. Join support groups within your community, online, social media or within your church.Get a hobby, help out others, for example volunteer work. That way you stay busy, you socialize and you feel good.