List of ideal questions to ask about on your first date

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If you’re worried about not having anything to bring up, or if you’re really nervous and want ideas, then you’ve come to the right spot. Below is the ultimate list of questions to ask about to help break that uncomfortable feeling when you meet your date for the first time.

    1. What’s your typical day like for you?
    2. Are you more of a daytime or night time person?
    3. What’s it like to do (name something you date mentioned in their typical day)?
    4. How long have you lived here in (insert the city where your date is taking place)?
    5. Have you lived any where else aside from this city?
    6. What do you like to do when you’re not busy working?
    7. Do you prefer indoor or outdoor activities?
    8. Have any pets?
    9. Have you had a chance to sight see in city?
    10. What was the last show or movie you saw?
    11. What’s your favorite alcoholic and nonalcoholic drink?
    12. Do you have any siblings? (If yes,) how many siblings do you have?
    13. What were you like when you were a kid?
    14. What’s your favorite type of food?
    15. What are some of the favorite restaurants you’ve tried?
    16. What was the last tv series you’ve seen?
    17. What are some of the books you’ve really enjoyed?
    18. Who are some of your favorite authors?
    19. What would you do if you won the lotto?
    20. What’s your dream job?
    21. What would you do if you never needed to work another day in your life?
    22. If you can vacation anywhere, where would it be?
    23. Within your close group of friends, what are you best known for?
    24. What type of music are you in to?
    25. What are some accomplishments that you’re really proud of?
    26. Name a couple of things that you’re always down for?
    27. What’s your favorite song?
    28. If you had a chance to have one super power, what would it be?
    29. What do you think is the cutest animal in the world?
    30. What would your best morning look like?
    31. What is your favorite color?
    32. What is your ideal city to live in?
    33. What’s your favorite app in your phone?
    34. What country will you like to visit?
    35. What country would you never visit?
    36. What weird talent do you have?
    37. If you had the time to do it, what would you like to learn?
    38. Do you speak any other language?
    39. How tech savvy are you?
    40. What’s your favorite snack or dessert?
    41. Do you currently go to school?
    42. What school do you go to?
    43. What subject or major are you going for?
    44. Have you ever changed career paths?
    45. What made you choose that profession?
    46. What do you like about your job?
    47. What do you dislike about your job?
    48. Do you play any instruments?
    49. What’s your favorite sport?
    50. Do you have a sports team you follow?
    51. What are some of the things you look for in a relationship?
    52. How long have you been single?
    53. What’s the longest relationship you’ve been on?
    54. Are most of your friends’ single, dating or married?
    55. Have you ever had a horrible date? What was it like?
    56. What was the last joke you remember?
    57. Do you have any tattoos?
    58. Do you like to cook? If so what’s your favorite to make?
    59. Do you prefer coffee or tea?
    60. What’s your favorite coffee or tea?
    61. Are you a big social media person?
    62. What do you consider too much social media?
    63. What would you say is in your fridge right now?
    64. What’s your silly habit?
    65. Are you working on any projects or event right now?
    66. Are you allergic to any type of food?
    67. What are some foods that you would never eat?
    68. What’s the last ah-ha moment you’ve had?
    69. What was something you thought was so small, but had such a huge impact in your life?
    70. What type of car would you like to own some day?
    71. What did you do on your last vacation?
    72. What did you do on the holidays?
    73. What are you most grateful for these days?
    74. What do you believe makes a great friend?
    75. What was the last song you listened to?
    76. If you had just 1 year to live, what would you do different?
    77. What’s your zodiac sign?
    78. What’s your element sign?
    79. What’s your spirit animal?
    80. What games are you into?
    81. What’s the most interesting fact you know about today?
    82. What was your favorite thing to watch on tv growing up?
    83. If you can be a part of the cast for any movie or show what would it be?
    84. What would you say is something that you’ve done that no one else has?
    85. What’s the one thing in your daily routine that you wish you can do without?
    86. If you decided to start a business for yourself, what type of business would it be?
    87. What music artist do you always listen to?
    88. What would you recommend that every person try at least once?
    89. What’s the strangest place you’ve visited?
    90. Where would your friends be most surprised to find you at?
    91. If you can go back in time in any era where would you go?
    92. What’s your favorite international food?
    93. If you can give yourself a cool nickname, what would you like others to call you?
    94. What’s the most beautiful view you’ve seen?
    95. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done?
    96. What’s you’re go to funny story?
    97. What’s your favorite quote?
    98. What are your kind of people?
    99. What’s your favorite place to hang out as a kid?
    100. What do you care the least about?
    101. What would you do with the extra time if you never had to sleep again?
    102. When you were a kid, what seemed like the best thing to be a grownup?
    103. If you could send a letter to yourself in the past, what age would you choose, and what would you say?
    104. How different do you act around people you know vs. people you’ve just met?
    105. What do you like to eat to cheer you up?
    106. What fashion or fad did you never understand?
    107. What’s the silliest conversation you’ve had with someone?
    108. What’s the strangest conversation you’ve had with someone?
    109. What’ the most ridiculous thing you’ve done when you’re bored?
    110. What’s happening now that people will look back and laugh at?
    111. What was the cheesiest pick up line someone has used on you?
    112. If you ruled the world, what would you change?
    113. What’s one thing you’ve tried that you’ll never ever do again?
    114. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten and enjoyed?
    115. If you could be the opposite sex for a day, what would you do?
    116. If you had the power to change the law, what would you change?
    117. If you had the power to transform into an animal, what would you be?
    118. Have you ever felt like you’ve met someone in a previous life?
    119. If you could read minds, how would you use that gift?
    120. Would you rather live full time in a boat or full time in an RV?
    121. Would you rather be incredibly fast or incredibly smart?
    122. Would you rather have true love or win the lotto?
    123. Would you rather marry a nice person or a bad boy/bad girl?
    124. Would you rather spend 2 weeks eating only from McDonalds or Burger King?
    125. Would you rather go to an amusement park or family or friend get together?
    126. Would you rather work behind a desk or use your hands?
    127. Would you rather be a hard worker or smart worker?
    128. Would you rather live in a place that always had tropical weather or live in one with 4 seasons?
    129. Would you rather bungee jump, be in a cage surrounded by sharks, or sky dive?
    130. Would you rather be able to stop time or age at half the rate of normal life?
    131. Would you rather have one close friend or many casual friends?
    132. Would you rather live in a mansion or a small cozy house?
    133. If you could give everyone one piece of advice, what would that be?
    134. If you could have the answer to any question in the whole world, what question would you want to answer?
    135. What do you miss about life 10 to 20 years ago?
    136. What’s getting worse as you age? What’s getting better as you age?
    137. Who taught you the most about life?
    138. What’s the hardest you’ve worked toward something?
    139. What friendship have you had that had the greatest impact to you?
    140. If you could be famous for something, what would that be?
    141. What are the top 5 things you like to talk about?
    142. Where would you like to retire?
    143. What sport would be the funniest if the players were all blind folded and drunk?
    144. What’s your favorite holiday?
    145. When do you feel the most like yourself?
    146. What a cheesy song you really like listening to?
    147. What were some of the happiest times in your life so far?
    148. Would you rather have an incredibly fast car, or incredibly fast internet
    149. What took you way to long to figure out?
    150. What fact blew your mind away when you heard it?
    151. Who is the best role model a person can have?
    152. What’s the best way to spend your day off?
    153. What’s the best way to spend a weekend off?
    154. What combination of toppings would make the best pizza ever?
    155. What’s the most thoughtful gift you’ve received?
    156. Who in your family are you closest to?
    157. Who among your friends are you closest to?
    158. What’s a New Year’s resolution you’d like to stick with?
    159. What’s one of your favorite memories with your friends or family?
    160. What’s something you’re financially saving for?
    161. What quality is an automatic “No Thanks, not for me” when you’re pursuing a relationship?
    162. When you were growing up, what did you hope to do as an adult?
    163. If your life was a movie, which famous person would play you?
    164. In one word, how would you describe yourself?
    165. What do you look for in a relationship?
    166. If you were stuck in a deserted island, who would be there with you?
    167. Aside from money, if you could have one material thing with you for the rest of your life, what would that be?
    168. If you could cure a major illness or problem in the world, what would that be?
    169. What do you find most attractive in a potential partner?
    170. What’s your dream house look like?
    171. Who inspires you? Who do you inspire to be like?
    172. What was your first cell phone like?
    173. Tell me what your favorite attribute about yourself?
    174. If you could be any cartoon character, who would you be and why?
    175. What’s your favorite thing about your vacation?

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Best First Date – Where to start to minimize anxiety and stress on a first date

Breathe…. Kudos to you for taking the dive! If you’re ready to try dating in today’s, stressful, nerve-wrecking, dating pool society, then a great place to start is by applying the following to your date: Simplicity, fun and a casual setting. You’ve probably heard the saying “Keep It Simple” from somewhere before in one form or another. It refers to not over thinking the process of the date by having so much stuff planned that you lose track of the opportunity to get to know your date. That’s where we come in.

You got the date, now you need a place that’s says you’re not a creeper or complicated. Better yet a place to get away if you’re date is a creeper and or complicated. You want a few options on locations that makes a good impression on the other person, but not on your wallet. To help with that, we recommend a few places to get you through that memorable or “memorable” first date, if you know what I mean.

The Park

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Going to the park that’s easy for both of you to meet at is a great way to get some fresh air and enjoy the outdoors. It’s also a great location if you prefer to have your first date in the day time. You can sit on the bench or under a shaded tree and look at the water fountain (if that park has one). You can also go for a walk, or go to the playground and sit on the swing. The park is great because nature has a way of helping us feel relaxed, calm and in tune with our senses. If that’s not your thing or you prefer a more modern but classic place for your first date, you can go to a….

Coffee Shop

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Ideal for a low-key location if you’re not too sure about the other person or vice versa. Like the park, this is a great location for a first date in the day time, but can be fun at night because of its casual setting. Because it’s typically inexpensive, it can help reduce the pressure of forcing to like each other to get your money’s worth. For certain individuals, especially if they’re being cautious, may like the crowd and feel more secure and comfortable in that setting. Plus, it has good ambiance. If you don’t drink coffee or not much of an outdoors person, you can also go to….

An arcade

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Playing games can be a great ice breaker because they’re light and playful, and can take the anxiety out of not knowing what to say or how to act. Because of this, an arcade may be a potential good place for a first date. The key, is to enjoy the games TOGETHER. Look for co-op games like House of the Dead, or Time Crisis. And If you’re feeling a little competitive, games like skee-ball, basketball shootout, and air hockey are also fun. It’s ok to be competitive, but don’t be too serious. You don’t have to be really good at the games to have fun. Beating your date on all games is definitely not a good look. No one wants to go on a second date with someone who’s primary focus on the date is all about themselves. Relax and use the games as props to engage conversation with your date and have a good time.

Now that you have a few suggested places, we want to leave you with a small pep talk. Be yourself. Don’t over think it or try to be someone else in the date. It’s who that person is looking for. Trying to fake it, will get you caught and potentially lose out on a second date.  Be confident. People are drawn to those who believe in themselves. And finally, learn to be a good listener. Listening to what your date says during your conversation is a great way to learn about what they’re into. Now go and have a great time!

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In a relationship with someone that’s not supportive? Gauge your priorities to improve your love life

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So, what if you’ve been together for a while, then I recommend using the “3 I’s” to gauge your situation. It’s something we use to determine the value of anything that’s worth our precious time and resource. It works in any business and work environment, as well as our relationships. The first “I” stands for Issue. What’s the issue or underlying problem? Is your partner closed off on all discussions and topics you deemed important enough to bring up? For example, let’s say you want to talk about your future together, are they interested in hearing your views? What about providing their thoughts or feedback? Do their views match and support your goals in the relationship? Are they willing to discuss it at all? If you answered “no” to any of the questions, it’s potential sign that they may not be interested taking it further. The second “I” is for Impact. What would the impact of a toxic relationship mean in your life??  if you make the decision on your own to solve the potential lack of support or trying to force a response from the other person, what is the impact to your character, your self-respect, or the way you view things in life. Again, be honest and trust your gut for the answers. The last “I” is for Importance. What does the importance of this relationship mean for you happiness? What is the importance to feel appreciated and connected? to have a partner that supports you, and values your time and everything that makes you who you are.

After you’ve had a chance to think through those questions, have a heart to heart with yourself by asking If you believe that person (your partner) is just having an off day, week, month etc, and this will come to pass, then that’s great! Then our recommendation from here is to communicate your feelings. Try not to hold anything in. If you’re feeling separated, express that to your partner. Be specific and use examples of times you’ve felt so. This way they can learn to understand your pain and frustrations. It may be possible that they just didn’t know it. Those that are closed up, may have issues that prevents them from opening up to you. There’s a really good psychology study done on our ability to attach to others that starts back in our early childhood known as “Attachment Theory.” I’ve attached the link here for reference.

If you’re going to communicate with your partner, remember to exercise common courtesy. If you’re both mad, it’s best to let the heat of the argument chill a bit. It’s harder to communicate if you’re both yelling and frustrated.

On the other hand, it’s also important to never settle for anything less than what you deserve. All the reasons you’re telling yourself about wanting to change your partner out of that phase, or hoping that they’re attitude will pass may seem logical. However, it may also be excuses to justify your feeling to hold on to someone that may not have the emotional intelligence needed to keep you engaged and fulfilled. Contrary to what others may say in the internet, relationship should not be rocket science. While the saying “nobody’s perfect” may sound like a good reason to continue to try to make a difficult relationship work, there are times when you just need to accept that like some used cars, a relationship can be a lemon, and you need to accept its reality, cut your losses and try again.

In a new relationship and having communication problems? Do you keep working or call it quits?

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If you’ve read past the title, the good news is it’s not game over just yet. As human beings it’s perfectly normal to feel unappreciated or distant when your partner isn’t giving the responsive support you need to assure yourself in the relationship. The feeling of “being alone” at times is enough for some to call it quits and find someone better suited to fill that “emotional gap”. If you see yourself approaching this crossroad, or if you’re already there and it’s time to decide, here’s something to consider:

Where are you both in your level of engagement? Is it happening in the early stages?  If you’re already feeling disconnected with your partner after just a few dates in, it may be a warning sign of things to expect in the future should you decide to stay. Sure, you can say to yourself that “the sparks in the beginning was great, and just because you’re not seeing eye to eye now doesn’t mean that it will stay that way”. This is an attempt we use to try to justify the means of something that’s not aligning with your gut instinct. If you haven’t voiced this out to anyone, then it’s likely that no one is challenging your initial thoughts this early in the relationship. But, your “gut instinct” has a way of being honest with yourself even if at first you try to reject it. Our theory is that this part of yourself acts as a deterrent for things that will not be in your favor. Think about a time when you felt something was just off. Your gut instincts keep you aware of that situation and you can’t stop thinking about until you act on it, towards or against your feelings. And in most cases, it will always be in your favor. That’s why It’s even more important to think about yourself and your wants and needs before anyone else. No one wants to be the only person engaged in a relationship. It’s like driving a car with only 2 wheels on one side. The sparks you see and feel may be exciting for the moment, but the cost of damages to your emotional vehicle can be very expensive to repair.

It may seem difficult to just let things go especially if you’ve already invested your time, resources and emotional intelligence towards that person. It can sometimes feel like a game of tug of war, when your trying to decide with your gut and your mind on deciding to stay or move on. Do you remember that feeling you had when taking that quiz and ran across a difficult multiple-choice question that provided an A through D of potential answers? You read the question and gloss over the 4 letters along with their different responses. At that point, your first gut feelings and knowledge in your being says the answer is A, but you second guess yourself and try to make a logical decision to go with C because it also somewhat answers the question. So, you go with C, and when the quiz is given back to you, you missed the points for that question since the correct answer was A. For a just a moment you question the logic to why you selected something else, when your initial gut feeling and knowledge applied towards that question already decided for you. You knew the answer but you second guess it, because something swayed your otherwise. That’s kind of what this situation is now. Your gut and intuition told you A, which is your first instinctive choice, but you’re trying to make sense of justifying to yourself why it should not be A, but something else. According to Albert.IO, In most cases, your first gut choice is often the right one. If you feel that the relationship is fairly new, and you’re seeing the signs of problems to come, trust your gut and life experience to help direct your motives towards that answer.

Slow and Steady wins your relationship race

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In a previous article “Is this serious? Acknowledging your relationship beyond dating,” we spoke about simplifying your feelings towards your partner, and if you’re ready to take it to a more committed stage in your relationship. If you find yourself not convinced, here are two factors to check off in your mind to help get you to your answer:

How long have you been seeing each other? A study from “Time Off” of over 11,000 participants state that most couples start to engage in a more serious step in their relationship around six to eight weeks from the initial conception of them dating. Considering your individual responsibilities such as work, time alone for yourself, gym or other hobbies, hanging with your friends and any other events. a safe conservative amount is 7 to 10 dates within 2 months.

Do you talk to each other regularly? This should come as no surprise that communication is key to knowing if you’re ready to get serious. Most new relationships typically start with talking to each other once or twice a day, and minimum of 2 to 3 times a week depending on how busy your both are. Acknowledging each other’s time is a great way to show respect and appreciation for you and your partner’s lifestyle. For example, you work a 9 to 5 schedule, and you make the effort to call or text in the morning, break time and at the end of the day. If you’re the type who loves to talk about anything and everything all the time, communicating 2-3 times a day may seem pretty normal. However, let’s say you both have a strenuous schedule. Maybe you’re both doing something that takes up a lot of your time, and you don’t the luxury of talking more than once a day. How about if you’re both living on opposite sides of the planet or on different time zones. It’s ideal for couples would work out a schedule that best fits their unique circumstances. Our recommendation is once a day.

Being honest about your individual needs on these topics will save both of you the headaches and heartaches in the future when thinking about growing as an exclusive couple.

My wife is a big fan of romantic comedy series, and I’m a big on anime. We both tend to binge watch our favorite shows. One thing I’ve always found fascinating when engaging ourselves into these episodes, is our desire to want to know everything, to help make sense of it all. If you’re like us, you watch a great episode, and suddenly you’re hooked and want to learn more. So what else do you do? you watch episode after episode (sometimes skipping to the middle or end of that series) and as you learn about it, you develop an opinion about the characters and subconsciously a relationship towards them as well. At some point you get your hopes up, sometimes anxiety takes over depending on what happening during show. And as much as we hate to think about it, you get disappointed too. I think it’s the hopeless romantic in all of us that sets that tone. So even watching a series on Netflix or Hulu can create different stages of happiness, tension or any other emotional attachment depending on how engaged we allow ourselves to be. Relationships should be no different. There’s nothing wrong with skipping ahead to see if the two of you are meant to be, part of the adventure is learning about the characters involved in your own relationship series and all the good, the bad and unknown that comes along with it. So, don’t over think it. Trust your gut, and practical logic to move forward to the next episode.

Is this serious? Acknowledging your relationship beyond dating

 

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If you’re asking yourself this question, it’s a good sign that you’re curious to know your next step. In today’s modern dating, access to helping you solve this question often gets diluted from websites giving you a range of 20 to 100 things to consider if your serious about taking your relationship to the next level. Instead, we’ll just cut right to the chase and tell you what to consider from a man and woman’s point of view.

It’s really a question about your comfort level with your ‘Relationship Status.” A rule of thumb to consider is your loyalty to your partner in these terms “You’re their only person in this relationship, and they’re yours.” If you’re both find with that, Congratulations! You’re both now in an exclusive relationship! From a man’s point of view, this means asking yourself the simple question, can you see yourself committed to “JUST” your partner. Simple right? I’m not intending to make it sound negative, but over complicating it will not help you or your partner. And just in case you’re still not sure, this means no fooling around with any other person. If it deems worthy of cheating in your mind, most likely, it probably is.

From a woman’s point of view, it’s really a matter of accepting the opinions of those around you viewing you both as an “ITEM”, and no longer available on the market. For example, let’s say your partner says they want to take it slow and see what happens. From a woman’s perspective, this means that she’s yours “UNTIL” she finds someone that’s looking for something more to offer. If you’re ready to commit, do so, or else you may lose her to another prospect without even realizing it.

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Summer Date Ideas

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So it’s officially summer time and you’ve run out of ideas to take your significant other to.  On top of that you’re (almost) broke.  So what do you do? Staying home may not always be an option, and sometimes you just need to get out of the house.  But let’s face it, were not made of money and depending on your lifestyle, the dollar signs are limited.

Well have no fear ladies and gentlemen, below are a list of simple solutions for a date night that is little to no cost (depending on your location of course).

Play Tourist – It may seem a bit tacky, but it’s a great way to expand your knowledge of your city or other cities nearby.  You also get a healthy dose of Vitamin D.

Karaoke Night- have a friend that has one? Set up a double date and swing by their house for a night of laughs and fun times.

Outdoor Sport – If singing or walking around the city is not your thing, bring your date to an outdoor event like volleyball, basketball, tennis etc.  It’s a great way to burn a few calories and share a sweat with someone you like outside of the bedroom.

Scavenger Hunt through Memory Lane – Great for couples that have been together for a bit.  Put together lists of things that you shared and have them guess or vise versa.  This is a great way to let them know that you remember the great things that jump started your rockin’ relationship.

Good Ol’ Picnic at the Park – Nothing beats a romantic date under a shady tree.  You can even bring an instrument and serenade your other have to put icing on the cake.

Volunteer – If you want to show your caring side, set up a date volunteering.  It shows that you are the kind of person that helps the community which is a big plus in a lot of people’s check list.

Partner Massage – Want to keep it indoors? No one says you need to be perfect at it.  *Warning* this can often lead to other activities which may or may not go in your favor.

The key thing to remember is have a great time.  Showing that you are fun, smart, active, compassionate and romantic is a great way to maintain that your brownie points is topped off.  All relationships start out as dates, and dates are essential to maintain a great relationship.

Source:

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Date Night Ideas

Is it that time of the year? If you’re in a relationship or courting someone with the goal of being in a relationship, we know the importance of having a great “Date Night” experience.  It’s like playing a video game or crossword puzzle where the objective is to put it altogether or accomplish the stage for another opportunity.  If you run out of ideas, use any or all of the ones below to help you create a fun experience that your partner will remember you for.

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  • Take a Dance Lesson together – If you’re the spontaneous type, show them what skills you may or may not have
  • Triathloning Activities – This doesn’t mean go swim, bike and run.  Instead do 3 events that you both feel your good at and compete such as basketball shootout, target shooting, dance dance revolution, etc.
  • Eat at home – Save $$$ by dumping out the going out and eating idea.  Instead, make the date night more relaxing by making your date dinner at home.
  • Getting Physical – No don’t hit your partner, I meant doing physical exercises together.  Things like Zumba, P90X or even Crossfit is a good way to see the athletic side of your partner.
  • Go Sight Seeing – Dates don’t have to be expensive.  Take them for a stroll around the city or park.  Enjoy the scene and take your time.  You might be amazed to see how romantic this may be.
  • Take them to Open Water – Ever had the chance to watch the Sunset by a Lake, River or Ocean? It’s a beautiful scene.  Great way to end a date or start one.
  • Watch an Improv or Comedy Show – No idea on what to do to make the night memorable, well have someone else do it.  Making a person laugh, they become more relaxed and willing to enjoy the date.
  • Take them to a wine or beer tour – Not only will you learn something, but you can remove the guilt trip of drinking earlier in the day.
  • Grab a tale at the book store – Sure you already have a Nook, Kindle or IPAD that does that.  But having an actual book and starting a conversation about what you and your partner have read is a great way to ignite past memories and create new ones.
  • Cuddle by the fire – If your house has a fireplace, this is the time to use it.  Talk about how you guys first met or past horror stories that are funny to talk about now while being in a dark place with just the fire burning out.
  • Instagram your date – If you see something funny snap a picture of it.  Been somewhere cool or new, snap a picture.  Post it and Whalla!! Instant album of your date night.
  • Drive In Movie Night – Back in the days these were the way to go when you want to do something romantic.  A little bit of old school tactics are never a bad thing when trying to impress your date.
  • Check out the Carnival – Win them a prize or beat them to get one.  End your night with some cotton candy and a ride on the Ferris wheel.
  • Check out the Nightclub – Show off your MC Hammer or Lord of the Dance.
  • Serenade them – If you can play an instrument or sing well enough. Sing them their favorite song or album to show how much you care and pay attention.
  • Check out something New – If you have never been to a museum or gallery, def go and see one.  It’s a great way to learn new things about artist, history or anatomy.
  • Check off your list of “Always wanted to dos” – If you’re the type of person who has made a list of things to do before you die, get married, etc.  Take your partner on a few of them to share a memory.
  • Hit the Road – Go on a mini road trip to see neighboring cities and states.  That way you will always remember that you were there along with the things you did.
  • Morning Movie Date – It’s cheaper, and allows you to do more things throughout your day.
  • Picnic at the park – great way to keep it casual and romantic
  • Join an event together – Try a 5k, Mud Run or even a Color run to bring out the sporty side of your partner
  • Hit the board games – If you’re tired of going out and spending a ton of cash, get a board game together and play like you were kids
  • Conquer a mountain – Go for a hike or camp overnight.  Great way to enjoy each other’s company with Mother Nature.
  • Go to a Spa – Nothing’s wrong with getting some TLC once in a while.. or twice in a while.. or even 3 times in a while.. if that makes any sense
  • Last Minute Surprise – Take your mate on an unscheduled vacation anywhere.  It’s a wonderful way of showing your on the fly personality.

Source:

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/43-date-night-ideas?page=4

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/100-date-ideas?link=msn%3A50%20Best%20Date-Night%20Ideas%20of%20All%20Time_The%2010%20Rocky%20Moments%20Every%20Relationship%20Faces&dom=msn&tpc=Relationships&src=syn&con=art&mag=rbk#slide-46

Why were attracted to funny people

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Let’s face it, it’s better to have a conversation with a funny person vs. having one with half a personality.  Being around someone that has a lively personality and doesn’t mind making you laugh, makes your day a bit better, relaxes your nerves and is even an attraction factor.

From my own discussions with guys and girls growing up, they all believe that having a sense of humor is definitely up there with the qualities they are seeking in a partner.

So what is it about a person’s sense of humor that really places high on our charts?

The person is laid back – Being around an uptight person brings out worst in a setting.  However those who normally laughs all the time tends to take the relaxed approach and may normally be up to doing anything fun.

Increases the comfort level – No one likes being in an awkward situation.  That’s what happens when everyone is too serious to start a conversation.  Imagine what its like if you were in a relationship with a person that makes you feel like this in public.

Experience – People with a great sense of humor have often experienced hardship or survived something terrible that allows them to talk about in a different light.  Heck you can probably even ask them for advice.

Discards physical imperfections – A funny person doesn’t have to look like a super model.  A study from Northumbria University says that women are more likely to be attracted to men who have a good sense of humor, which has the power to overlook physical imperfections like beer bellies, and baldness.

Intelligence – Being funny can often be associated to being smart since the person has to portray the joke or story it in their own point of view while displaying it to us in a way that we understand as funny.

There are probably many other examples as to why we are attracted to those who cracks us up. Next time you’re out on a date, pay attention to see if these examples qualify the person to be attractive through your eyes.

Source:

http://www.theledger.com/article/20061208/NEWS/61208035

Relationships – Styles of Love

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In a relationship, there are stages that a person normally goes through when they are in love.  An article from YourTango.com states that there are actually 6 different styles.

Romantic – This love style is when you are deeply into the other person.  Normally due to being swept off your feet or possibly through physical attributes.

List Maker – This style of love is about sticking to your guns on whats important to you.  You may be the type of person that puts extra pressure for your mate to meet your standards in a relationship

The obsessive – This style of love is the type to want to be around the person all the time.  You are always concerned about what is your partner doing when they are away from you.  This can be over kill and may drive your significant other crazy at times.

Giver – This is the person who always gives more than they receive. You’re constantly thinking of your partners needs over yours and will often get the short end of the stick.

Player – This style of love often leads to a short relationship, due to boredom.  You like the thrill of being chased and chasing, but once your there you no longer crave your prize.

The Pal – This means that your love style is more of laid back than the rest.  You take your time and cherish hanging out with the person vs. trying to jump the gun on a serious relationship.  This often means that you take things slowly and waits to see what it could possibly turn out to be.

Regardless of style, you must consider 2 things for love to truly be a wonderful experience.

1 – Take the time to think about the impact that you have on your partner and vise versa.  Love is about opening yourself to receive as much as giving.  Don’t be too greedy or too generous.

2 – Don’t force it or stray it along for too long.  If you are really in love, then show it without shoving it through your mate’s throat.  They will know you affection based on actions.  Just don’t do anything stupid or out of line that it will require them to put a restraining order on you.

On the flip side, if you no longer love the person and your just keeping them there to keep you company, then really you’re not being fair to them or yourself.  Allow them to find their own soul mate, and you may even see that you find another that will give you the feeling you always wanted.

Love can be interpreted in many ways. But in a relationship thinking of only yourself can be a recipe for heartbreak and disappointment. Don’t sell yourself short, but don’t rob others of it as well.  Keep in mind that love is about experience, learning, growth and appreciation.

Source:

http://www.yourtango.com/2013177668/what-kind-lover-are-you