Why were attracted to funny people

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Let’s face it, it’s better to have a conversation with a funny person vs. having one with half a personality.  Being around someone that has a lively personality and doesn’t mind making you laugh, makes your day a bit better, relaxes your nerves and is even an attraction factor.

From my own discussions with guys and girls growing up, they all believe that having a sense of humor is definitely up there with the qualities they are seeking in a partner.

So what is it about a person’s sense of humor that really places high on our charts?

The person is laid back – Being around an uptight person brings out worst in a setting.  However those who normally laughs all the time tends to take the relaxed approach and may normally be up to doing anything fun.

Increases the comfort level – No one likes being in an awkward situation.  That’s what happens when everyone is too serious to start a conversation.  Imagine what its like if you were in a relationship with a person that makes you feel like this in public.

Experience – People with a great sense of humor have often experienced hardship or survived something terrible that allows them to talk about in a different light.  Heck you can probably even ask them for advice.

Discards physical imperfections – A funny person doesn’t have to look like a super model.  A study from Northumbria University says that women are more likely to be attracted to men who have a good sense of humor, which has the power to overlook physical imperfections like beer bellies, and baldness.

Intelligence – Being funny can often be associated to being smart since the person has to portray the joke or story it in their own point of view while displaying it to us in a way that we understand as funny.

There are probably many other examples as to why we are attracted to those who cracks us up. Next time you’re out on a date, pay attention to see if these examples qualify the person to be attractive through your eyes.

Source:

http://www.theledger.com/article/20061208/NEWS/61208035

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Relationships – Styles of Love

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In a relationship, there are stages that a person normally goes through when they are in love.  An article from YourTango.com states that there are actually 6 different styles.

Romantic – This love style is when you are deeply into the other person.  Normally due to being swept off your feet or possibly through physical attributes.

List Maker – This style of love is about sticking to your guns on whats important to you.  You may be the type of person that puts extra pressure for your mate to meet your standards in a relationship

The obsessive – This style of love is the type to want to be around the person all the time.  You are always concerned about what is your partner doing when they are away from you.  This can be over kill and may drive your significant other crazy at times.

Giver – This is the person who always gives more than they receive. You’re constantly thinking of your partners needs over yours and will often get the short end of the stick.

Player – This style of love often leads to a short relationship, due to boredom.  You like the thrill of being chased and chasing, but once your there you no longer crave your prize.

The Pal – This means that your love style is more of laid back than the rest.  You take your time and cherish hanging out with the person vs. trying to jump the gun on a serious relationship.  This often means that you take things slowly and waits to see what it could possibly turn out to be.

Regardless of style, you must consider 2 things for love to truly be a wonderful experience.

1 – Take the time to think about the impact that you have on your partner and vise versa.  Love is about opening yourself to receive as much as giving.  Don’t be too greedy or too generous.

2 – Don’t force it or stray it along for too long.  If you are really in love, then show it without shoving it through your mate’s throat.  They will know you affection based on actions.  Just don’t do anything stupid or out of line that it will require them to put a restraining order on you.

On the flip side, if you no longer love the person and your just keeping them there to keep you company, then really you’re not being fair to them or yourself.  Allow them to find their own soul mate, and you may even see that you find another that will give you the feeling you always wanted.

Love can be interpreted in many ways. But in a relationship thinking of only yourself can be a recipe for heartbreak and disappointment. Don’t sell yourself short, but don’t rob others of it as well.  Keep in mind that love is about experience, learning, growth and appreciation.

Source:

http://www.yourtango.com/2013177668/what-kind-lover-are-you

Whats your “secret sauce” to a healthy relationship?

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If you’re in to this sort of thing, then you probably know that a healthy relationship can make this part of your life more meaningful, joyful and fulfilled.  I consider a healthy relationship with a person to be like owning a well maintained vehicle.  Regardless of time, model or year, as long as you do the regular maintenance (like having a date night, tell them how much they are appreciated, do something nice etc) and your 30k, 60k, 90k (anniversaries, birthday, or a special event) then life is good.

I don’t know many healthy relationships where couples don’t have a misunderstanding once in a while.  I personally believe it’s unfair to you and your mate to have to give a part of yourself up to please the other person or vise versa; the tips below are a good way to create and maintain a balance.

  • Speak Up – If something is bothering you, it’s best to let it surface early than waiting till the pot is overflowing.  This way you don’t catch the other person off guard.
  • Respect your other half – Even if you think it’s not a big deal, it still shows your partner that you value their feelings
  • Compromise – This is a big one.  All healthy relationships understand that it’s a 2 way street.  It’s a true testament to give a little to take a little.
  • Be Supportive – Be the shoulder to cry on, be the shield when you need to be, and be the friend that lends the ear to their problems while offering solutions.

But it doesn’t end there.  I was taught a simple saying that stuck with me up to this day. “Separation brings Appreciation.” The way I interpret this is to give yourself some well deserved “you time”, and let your partner do the same.

  • Go out with friends by yourself so you never lose that part of you
  • Continue or get into hobbies that you like
  • Don’t share all your logins and passwords to all your bank accounts and social media sites

On a final note, enjoy each other’s time. Be spontaneous and do fun stuff like going on a road trip, visit memory lane on where you both first met, join some activity together and continue to create (more) fun memories.  Each of us is responsible to adding your own ingredients and spices to create our own relationship’s “secret sauce.” You only live once so don’t take life so seriously that you spend it alone.

Now go to your other half, plan something and show them what they mean to you.  Just be sure to take pictures for your scrap book!

Source:

http://www.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships