Moving forward from after abusive relationship

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If you’ve recently escaped that horrible chapter in your life, congratulations! You’ve done what many are still struggling with and it’s commendable, and brave. While others may say that you’re free, so go and find someone better etc. you may not be ready to move on just yet. Crazy right?  After all that you’ve been through, why would you think for even a moment about it. We’ll it’s because we’re human, we’re emotional beings with the ability to apply logic to our actions. Leaving a relationship, especially if you’ve really invested your time and energy to make it work, can feel like one of the hardest things to recover from. Because of our feelings towards that person, sometimes the emotional and mental effects from experiencing abuse can linger on. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, those that are recovering from an abusive relationship may experience any combination of feelings such as:

  • Depression
  • Guilt
  • Anger
  • PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
  • Anxiety
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Easily frightened or scared
  • Difficulty engaging in future relationships
  • Feeling emotionally numb towards others

While it’s not as simple, the first step toward recovering from any type of traumatic experience is by reconnecting your sense of safety and security. This begins by establishing stability in your life. It’s true that the concept of stability varies for different people, and it really starts by setting a daily routine such as going from home to a steady job towards gaining your independence back.

Next, allow yourself the chance to grieve. It’s within your right to feel sad or angry for a while. Create outlets that gives you an opportunity to do so. Activities such as writing, painting, exercising, meditation, and dance are a few good examples. By letting it out through positive outlets can also act as a way to give you back the power to own your life again.

Last but certainly not least, reconnect with a support group that understands you and what you’ve been through. Maybe that’s friends or family, and maybe it’s other’s that helped you in your journey. It’s fair to say that It can be pretty difficult to remember what life was like before an abusive relationship. In addition, you may feel emotionally disconnected for a while, and it may be a challenge to trust people again. Take it one step at a time. Talk to those that gave you comfort and strength. The world is filled with wonderful people that do care for one another.

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