Slow and Steady wins your relationship race

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In a previous article “Is this serious? Acknowledging your relationship beyond dating,” we spoke about simplifying your feelings towards your partner, and if you’re ready to take it to a more committed stage in your relationship. If you find yourself not convinced, here are two factors to check off in your mind to help get you to your answer:

How long have you been seeing each other? A study from “Time Off” of over 11,000 participants state that most couples start to engage in a more serious step in their relationship around six to eight weeks from the initial conception of them dating. Considering your individual responsibilities such as work, time alone for yourself, gym or other hobbies, hanging with your friends and any other events. a safe conservative amount is 7 to 10 dates within 2 months.

Do you talk to each other regularly? This should come as no surprise that communication is key to knowing if you’re ready to get serious. Most new relationships typically start with talking to each other once or twice a day, and minimum of 2 to 3 times a week depending on how busy your both are. Acknowledging each other’s time is a great way to show respect and appreciation for you and your partner’s lifestyle. For example, you work a 9 to 5 schedule, and you make the effort to call or text in the morning, break time and at the end of the day. If you’re the type who loves to talk about anything and everything all the time, communicating 2-3 times a day may seem pretty normal. However, let’s say you both have a strenuous schedule. Maybe you’re both doing something that takes up a lot of your time, and you don’t the luxury of talking more than once a day. How about if you’re both living on opposite sides of the planet or on different time zones. It’s ideal for couples would work out a schedule that best fits their unique circumstances. Our recommendation is once a day.

Being honest about your individual needs on these topics will save both of you the headaches and heartaches in the future when thinking about growing as an exclusive couple.

My wife is a big fan of romantic comedy series, and I’m a big on anime. We both tend to binge watch our favorite shows. One thing I’ve always found fascinating when engaging ourselves into these episodes, is our desire to want to know everything, to help make sense of it all. If you’re like us, you watch a great episode, and suddenly you’re hooked and want to learn more. So what else do you do? you watch episode after episode (sometimes skipping to the middle or end of that series) and as you learn about it, you develop an opinion about the characters and subconsciously a relationship towards them as well. At some point you get your hopes up, sometimes anxiety takes over depending on what happening during show. And as much as we hate to think about it, you get disappointed too. I think it’s the hopeless romantic in all of us that sets that tone. So even watching a series on Netflix or Hulu can create different stages of happiness, tension or any other emotional attachment depending on how engaged we allow ourselves to be. Relationships should be no different. There’s nothing wrong with skipping ahead to see if the two of you are meant to be, part of the adventure is learning about the characters involved in your own relationship series and all the good, the bad and unknown that comes along with it. So, don’t over think it. Trust your gut, and practical logic to move forward to the next episode.

Summer Date Ideas

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So it’s officially summer time and you’ve run out of ideas to take your significant other to.  On top of that you’re (almost) broke.  So what do you do? Staying home may not always be an option, and sometimes you just need to get out of the house.  But let’s face it, were not made of money and depending on your lifestyle, the dollar signs are limited.

Well have no fear ladies and gentlemen, below are a list of simple solutions for a date night that is little to no cost (depending on your location of course).

Play Tourist – It may seem a bit tacky, but it’s a great way to expand your knowledge of your city or other cities nearby.  You also get a healthy dose of Vitamin D.

Karaoke Night- have a friend that has one? Set up a double date and swing by their house for a night of laughs and fun times.

Outdoor Sport – If singing or walking around the city is not your thing, bring your date to an outdoor event like volleyball, basketball, tennis etc.  It’s a great way to burn a few calories and share a sweat with someone you like outside of the bedroom.

Scavenger Hunt through Memory Lane – Great for couples that have been together for a bit.  Put together lists of things that you shared and have them guess or vise versa.  This is a great way to let them know that you remember the great things that jump started your rockin’ relationship.

Good Ol’ Picnic at the Park – Nothing beats a romantic date under a shady tree.  You can even bring an instrument and serenade your other have to put icing on the cake.

Volunteer – If you want to show your caring side, set up a date volunteering.  It shows that you are the kind of person that helps the community which is a big plus in a lot of people’s check list.

Partner Massage – Want to keep it indoors? No one says you need to be perfect at it.  *Warning* this can often lead to other activities which may or may not go in your favor.

The key thing to remember is have a great time.  Showing that you are fun, smart, active, compassionate and romantic is a great way to maintain that your brownie points is topped off.  All relationships start out as dates, and dates are essential to maintain a great relationship.

Source:

http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/love-sex/25-totally-free-date-ideas-2#1

Date Night Ideas

Is it that time of the year? If you’re in a relationship or courting someone with the goal of being in a relationship, we know the importance of having a great “Date Night” experience.  It’s like playing a video game or crossword puzzle where the objective is to put it altogether or accomplish the stage for another opportunity.  If you run out of ideas, use any or all of the ones below to help you create a fun experience that your partner will remember you for.

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  • Take a Dance Lesson together – If you’re the spontaneous type, show them what skills you may or may not have
  • Triathloning Activities – This doesn’t mean go swim, bike and run.  Instead do 3 events that you both feel your good at and compete such as basketball shootout, target shooting, dance dance revolution, etc.
  • Eat at home – Save $$$ by dumping out the going out and eating idea.  Instead, make the date night more relaxing by making your date dinner at home.
  • Getting Physical – No don’t hit your partner, I meant doing physical exercises together.  Things like Zumba, P90X or even Crossfit is a good way to see the athletic side of your partner.
  • Go Sight Seeing – Dates don’t have to be expensive.  Take them for a stroll around the city or park.  Enjoy the scene and take your time.  You might be amazed to see how romantic this may be.
  • Take them to Open Water – Ever had the chance to watch the Sunset by a Lake, River or Ocean? It’s a beautiful scene.  Great way to end a date or start one.
  • Watch an Improv or Comedy Show – No idea on what to do to make the night memorable, well have someone else do it.  Making a person laugh, they become more relaxed and willing to enjoy the date.
  • Take them to a wine or beer tour – Not only will you learn something, but you can remove the guilt trip of drinking earlier in the day.
  • Grab a tale at the book store – Sure you already have a Nook, Kindle or IPAD that does that.  But having an actual book and starting a conversation about what you and your partner have read is a great way to ignite past memories and create new ones.
  • Cuddle by the fire – If your house has a fireplace, this is the time to use it.  Talk about how you guys first met or past horror stories that are funny to talk about now while being in a dark place with just the fire burning out.
  • Instagram your date – If you see something funny snap a picture of it.  Been somewhere cool or new, snap a picture.  Post it and Whalla!! Instant album of your date night.
  • Drive In Movie Night – Back in the days these were the way to go when you want to do something romantic.  A little bit of old school tactics are never a bad thing when trying to impress your date.
  • Check out the Carnival – Win them a prize or beat them to get one.  End your night with some cotton candy and a ride on the Ferris wheel.
  • Check out the Nightclub – Show off your MC Hammer or Lord of the Dance.
  • Serenade them – If you can play an instrument or sing well enough. Sing them their favorite song or album to show how much you care and pay attention.
  • Check out something New – If you have never been to a museum or gallery, def go and see one.  It’s a great way to learn new things about artist, history or anatomy.
  • Check off your list of “Always wanted to dos” – If you’re the type of person who has made a list of things to do before you die, get married, etc.  Take your partner on a few of them to share a memory.
  • Hit the Road – Go on a mini road trip to see neighboring cities and states.  That way you will always remember that you were there along with the things you did.
  • Morning Movie Date – It’s cheaper, and allows you to do more things throughout your day.
  • Picnic at the park – great way to keep it casual and romantic
  • Join an event together – Try a 5k, Mud Run or even a Color run to bring out the sporty side of your partner
  • Hit the board games – If you’re tired of going out and spending a ton of cash, get a board game together and play like you were kids
  • Conquer a mountain – Go for a hike or camp overnight.  Great way to enjoy each other’s company with Mother Nature.
  • Go to a Spa – Nothing’s wrong with getting some TLC once in a while.. or twice in a while.. or even 3 times in a while.. if that makes any sense
  • Last Minute Surprise – Take your mate on an unscheduled vacation anywhere.  It’s a wonderful way of showing your on the fly personality.

Source:

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/43-date-night-ideas?page=4

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/100-date-ideas?link=msn%3A50%20Best%20Date-Night%20Ideas%20of%20All%20Time_The%2010%20Rocky%20Moments%20Every%20Relationship%20Faces&dom=msn&tpc=Relationships&src=syn&con=art&mag=rbk#slide-46